girls? Take initiative!
And waiting some more.
Horrible isnt it?
Waiting is unbearable, which is why I hate it.
Whats worse is sitting by the phone on a Saturday night waiting
for a guy to call. I cant think of anything more agonizing
or embarrassing for that matter.
Which is why a little over a year ago I got tired of it and took
Yes ladies, I asked a guy out on a date.
A few of my friends supported my choice: Good for you,
and I only wish I had the courage were just a few of
the remarks I received. Others were along the line of, Never,
men should always ask out women, its just not right.
The more I thought about it though, the more I realized that women
really should take the chance and ask a man out. Times are changing,
and they have been for quite some time. Besides, what harm could
it do? If anything, it just makes the relationship move faster.
My reasoning behind this is that men just dont get it. They
never seem to know a girl is hitting on them until another girl
points it out. If we sat around and waited on men our whole lives,
nothing would ever get accomplished.
When I look back on the time I wasted and ask my boyfriend, Why
didnt you just ask me out? He replies, I didnt
know you liked me. Yikes.
I thought I made it obvious. I thought that by swishing my hair
and touching his arm when he talked, he would get it. I thought
that by constantly making my way into every conversation he was
involved in, he would know. I thought that by complimenting him
and remembering specifics about his life, he would catch on. The
eye batting, the flirting, the laughing at his jokes, the question
so what are you doing this weekend? would make him think,
Hey, she likes me, maybe I should ask her out.
Nope, none of it worked. Which is a shame because I put a lot of
work into those few weeks. Thank the Lord I actually took a chance
and decided to take things into my own hands. When I had enough
and was tired of waiing, I did it. I called him; a year later we
are still together.
Despite my courage for the moment though, I was never that willing
to put myself out there. I hated the Sadie Hawkins dance in middle
school. Just the thought of having to ask a boy out made me want
to run and hide.
Usually only the girls with boyfriends went to that dance. Their
boy was already a built-in date. They never had to suffer the embarrassment
Fortunately for most of us, we should have grown out of that phase.
All it takes is a little mirror preparation, a mock asking-a-guy-out
session with our best friend, maybe a little wine and voila! youre
ready. I know I rehearsed my approach several times before actually
going through with it.
The fact is most guys I talk to would love it if a girl asked them
out. They say it takes the pressure off. Hey, anything we can do
What it comes down to is that I encourage all women to go out there
and take the chance, ask a guy out. While you may not end up with
a fulfilling relationship or even a good date for that matter, the
bottom line is that you did it. You are one of the few who were
gutsy enough to stand up and say, I want you!
So go out there, rouge your lips, wear your padded bra, and let
him know you are independent, daring and that you always get what
you want! And remember, dont take no for an answer!
Hall is a junior advertising/public relations major.